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No Regrets

July 22, 2010

Most mornings I play racquetball at our local rec center. One day I noticed a tattoo on one of the girls who works there;  It read “no regrets”. Seems like every time I’ve noticed it since, I’ve felt a twinge of uneasiness. The feeling is recognizable; It’s the same one I get whenever I hear someone say “if I had it all to do over again, I wouldn’t change one thing”.

So why the uneasiness? I guess If I’m really being honest with myself there are so many things in my story that I regret. There are so many things I’d love to go back and not do, re-do, undo. So many things I wish I hadn’t said. So many selfish ways I acted toward someone else. So many places where I intentionally chose to do the thing I knew I shouldn’t do. The hurtful thing, the destructive thing. I regret those things a lot.

This is one of the reasons I’m so encouraged by Jason Gray’s song Everything Sad Is Coming Untrue.  The song isn’t urging me to try to live in some artificial denial of how I might live my life over again, but to embrace the hope of the good news… that it’s all being made new.

Does this mean we live absent of what remains from our past careless and selfish choices?  Of course not. But even in those, there is hope. The consequences are reminders. And the reminders are constantly providing an opportunity to teach us that he is always making us new (Phil. 1:6).  Jaime Jamgochian’s version of the Nichole Nordeman song Heal The Wound But Leave The Scar. illustrates this beautifully.

So even though I have much to regret, I have much to celebrate. Because of the work of the Gospel, everything sad is indeed coming untrue. And placing my trust in that reality is something I would do over  and over again.


8 Comments leave one →
  1. July 22, 2010 5:52 AM

    Thanks for the post, John. I, too, like most others, have things that I wish I could do over, re-do, or undo. But I am glad for the things that God has placed in front of me. It’s molding me to become the person that I am and I look forward to the challenges He is bringing me.

    I just read 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 for part of my morning devotional and it gave me the strength and hope to push through the tough times and delight in my weaknesses. I am still learning, but the more I draw closer to Christ, the more He’s showing me, the more I become like him ( I kinda sounded like a downhere song for a bit…..) Without any regrets on the decisions I am making to come closer to Him.

    Thanks again for the encouraging post.


    • John Mays permalink
      July 24, 2010 7:07 AM

      Hey Mindy-

      That’s a great passage to add on to this thought. Thanks for posting it.


  2. Branden Camp permalink
    July 23, 2010 7:51 AM

    Wow! This is exactly what God has been teaching me this week. Thanks John!

    • John Mays permalink
      July 24, 2010 7:08 AM

      Wow indeed! That’s amazing. Thanks for letting me know.


  3. Brent permalink
    August 20, 2010 3:10 PM

    Thanks, John!

  4. John Mays permalink
    August 29, 2010 6:43 AM

    Hey Brent-

    Thank YOU for reading the blog and taking the time to leave a comment. Knowing that someone is reading and finding some encouragement in anything we post, is a big encouragement to us!

    Everything sad is coming untrue.


  5. August 30, 2010 12:11 PM

    Hi John,

    Great blog. I love your honesty and your ability to self-examine. I’ve been thinking about you recently, because I’m, um, writing a book, and I was just working on the chapter about my little foray into Nashville and the CCM industry some time ago. I still so appreciate your encouragement and support that you gave me then and continue to do. In my book, you’re still far and above all the rest!

    Love you, my friend–

    • John Mays permalink
      February 1, 2011 1:27 AM


      I’m terrible! I’m just now finding this reply you posted. Thanks so much.

      So by now, I’m guessing you’re finished with that book?!

      Can’t wait to read it.


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